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The delicate Pickup

16 Sep

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We’ve never pillaged the fortress of a center Eastern dictator before, butwe’d hope to seek out a treasure trove of riches: fossilized unicorn skulls, at leasttwo-dozen frozen pizzas and a jar of Tom Cruise’sbreath, among other rare finds. What we wouldn’t expect to find, however, is a photoalbum devoted to a former U.S. secretary of state with an affinity for heels. Butthat’s exactly what the rebels who ransacked Muammar Gadhafi’s Tripoli fortressfound: a photograph album dedicated to George W.Bush’s right-hand woman, Condoleezza Rice. Gadhafi hasn’t ever beenshy about his attraction to Condi, who he once called “my darling black African woman.”According to the Associated Press, he also once gave her a diamond ring, a lute and alocket with a picture of himself inscribed inside. Seems like Muammar had it bad. So wasthis whole “treat my people so poorly until they rebel, raid my fortress and find mycreepy photo album” thing only a giant ploy to get Rice to note him? If so, we canonly say dude, relax. There are far more subtle how you can go about picking up a woman.What may have prevent Gadhafi from simply approaching Rice after an evening at theoffice? Well, there’s certainly a negative stigma attached to men picking up women inbars. This may occasionally explain why many men get the cold shoulder once they approach hotties atnightclubs. When a person approaches a woman, her first instinct could be that this guy wantsnothing more from her than a little bit horizontal action. He doesn’t wish to be her friend,so why is he asking her what she does and what her interests are?It hasnothing to do with being normally standoffish; it’s merely as a result of stereotype ofthe pickup. Rarely does a person approach a girl because she looks intellectuallystimulating or because he’s searching for a significant relationship. If men stop treating theapproach as a pickup, so will women — which, in turn, will make women more inclined tochit-chat.This stigma basically stems from all of the creeps who’ve approachedwomen prior to now and who give sweet, cool guys bad reps. The nightclub/bar scenario alsolends itself to the negative stereotype of fellows approaching women, because it reinforces thethought that men can find women to take home. Come on, what’s “ladies’ night” allabout?And would both sexes be so keen on the way in which women looked atnightclubs if we didn’t think others were watching us at the dance floor? This may occasionally make itharder for men who’re actually worth chatting with; and yes, it’s not fair. Take a look at thebright side; if you happen to continuously get the comb off from women that you simply approach, it’s notsomething to be taken personally and it probably has nothing to do with you.The trick is to dispel the stereotype related to picking up women in clubs. Don’tbe the overeager gentleman who sees the lady as a challenge; without equal goal. So how doyou do that? To not worry, there may be hope. Just follow these simple steps and you will besure to succeed at approaching women.

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I speak for many women after I say that there’s a negative stigma attached to men pickingup women in bars. This may increasingly explain why many men get the cold shoulder after they approachhotties at nightclubs. When a person approaches a woman, her first instinct may well be thatthis guy wants nothing more from her than somewhat horizontal action. He doesn’t want tobe her friend, so why is he asking her what she does and what her interests are? It has nothing to do with being normally standoffish; it’s merely as a result of thestereotype of the pickup. Rarely does a person approach a lady because she looksintellectually stimulating or because he’s searching for a major relationship. If menstop treating the approach as a pickup, so will women — which, in turn, will make womenmore inclined to chit-chat. This stigma basically stems from the entire creepswho have approached women previously and who give sweet, cool guys bad reps. Thenightclub/bar scenario also lends itself to the negative stereotype of guys approachingwomen, because it reinforces the concept that men can find women to take home. Come on,what’s “ladies’ night” all about? Do not get me wrong, I LIKE that I WILL BE ABLE TO getinto a club at no cost and get drunk for 5 dollars as a result of my genitalia, but let’s berealistic; would men be lined up at a club in the event that they didn’t know that where was full ofhot tamales who’re downing tequila like wildfire? And would both sexes be soconcerned in regards to the way women checked out nightclubs if we didn’t think others were watchingus at the dance floor? This will likely make it harder for men who’re actually worth talking to;and yes, it is not fair. Take a look at the brilliant side; in case you continuously get the comb offfrom women that you simply approach, it isn’t …

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