Romance And Happiness

16 Sep

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Among the best things about romantic love isthat it feels so good. Falling in love is likely one of the best natural drugs we have.It’s a more powerful emotion than sexual attraction. It’s also goodfor your health. Men in happy, loving relationships live longer and are better able tosurvive medical crises.But were you aware that romantic love doesn’t existin some cultures? The factor that determines whether romantic love exists and is valued iswomen’s sexual freedom.Let us break it down for you. Cultures that allowpremarital sex and feminine choice in partner selection (as opposed to the sexual doublestandard and organized marriages) place a high value at the importance of romantic love. Sosay the authors of a up to date study within the journal Cross-Cultural Research.In the study, the authors used a well known scale to measure romantic love andthen compared it to varied cultures. The dimensions looks at love as a system of things thatinclude the idealisation of the possible spouse, especially a spouse with littleresources, loyalty to a mate, the absence of arranged marriages, non-obligated giftgiving, spare time spent together, a belief that partners are predestined to be together,happiness associated with attachments. Within the study, when cultures controlled women’ssexuality, these behaviors and feelings were less common. Female choice is key.And what’s romantic love, except men’s fabulous strategies to woo a lady? Someanthropologists believe that out of romantic wooing came one of the most most sophisticatedforms of human intelligence — art, music and romantic language. Yes, art evolved as animportant tool to draw females.So what does this say about our currentculture where the upward thrust of women’s empowerment signifies that sex is in high supply? Ittells us that while romantic love isn’t essential to obtain sex, it’s still vitalto achieve a cheerful marriage.Long-term married couples often report that ahighly emotional romantic courtship before marriage breeds positive memories that help acouple ride out the rough patches. And married couples with a brief courtship are morelikely to divorce. Finally, there’s truth to the motto “a cheerful wife makes a happylife.” Married women don’t have better health and out survive singlewomen — unless they’re in a cheerful marriage.My advice: In case your date has wifepotential, don’t forgo the chocolates, roses and romantic getaways.Resources: Continue Reading

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