“You liked being the apple of her eye, but you’ll come second to the children.”
We’re collecting the ten craziest, most painful and/or hilarious stories from you, our readers, about her (or your) decision to begin a family. Send yours to us at firstname.lastname@example.org, or leave a comment below.Do you’ve nightmares of three a.m. nappy changes? Do you fear the sound of your child’s footsteps waking you up at 5 a.m. on a Saturday morning because he’s able to play with stuffed animals? Have you been on an airplane, just settling in, and the screaming baby starts up? It starts as a whimper, after which it goes to full-blown screams. The oldsters don’t have any control over it, and for the following four and a half hours, rather than watching the movie, you retain thinking to yourself, “Why doesn’t BA have an airline only for kids, to allow them to get to wherever without annoying all of the other passengers?”
The woman you’re with talks about how amazing it’d be to begin a family, how beautiful it’d be to share all that love with children for your life. Meanwhile, you’re thinking that to yourself that you just like life just how it is true now. You’ve got freedom, independence, no responsibilities. You’ll visit dinner wherever you wish to have. You’ll exit however long you want.
To you, the idea of going out to dinner and playing “bounce the child back and forth” so one person can eat while the opposite entertains the newborn actually makes your stomach turn. The idea of having up at 5 a.m. doesn’t attract you in any way.
Yet your girlfriend, who’s so in love with you, desires to have kids. She can’t wait to breast feed. You do not need anybody or anything on her breasts except you.
break up: the most productive thing to do?
Do you already know the image I’m painting for you? You’re with a lady who so wants to have children, but you spot children as parasites. You’re thinking that kids are nuisances. You simply don’t see yourself as a father, but since she came along, you’ve asked yourself every day, “Can I do it? Do I ACTUALLY want kids? If I don’t want kids, am i able to keep dating her anyway?”If everything I’ve just said resonates with you, then you definately are going to be miserable with children. You’ll basically give yourself a jail sentence for the remainder of your life. You’ll surrender the nice car and drive a minivan instead. Your girlfriend, who will now become your wife, will now not make you are feeling desired. You loved being the apple of her eye, but you’ll come second to the kids. It’s everything you do not want.
The base line is that she wants children and also you don’t. So how do you agree? How do you retain her and still be fair to either one of you? Here’s the solution: You do not compromise. You don’t stick with her. Unless you will see yourself changing diapers or because the guy at the airplane, apologising to your baby’s incessant crying, you are not cut out for having kids.
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